If how we were living our lives were working for us, then we’d feel it.

We’d know.

We’d experience a feeling of contentment and satisfaction… and deep down we wouldn’t feel the need to make a change.


Contentment and satisfaction aren’t what most people feel though.

Most have a yearning inside that whispers “I’m ready to live a life more deeply lead”.

So, we look for the change.

There are certain principals and concepts that we need to adapt in our lives that are going to enable us to experience better results and to be the change that we want to be within ourselves.

It’s about opening up our mind to new experiences and ways of thinking that we hadn’t even thought of before (because if we did know how to think them then we would know how to access them).

We start with changing our way of thinking which opens up new possibilities within our mind which in turn is going to change our results.

The theory is simple – when we think in new ways, we go beyond our current level of thinking. This is experienced in the form of a ‘blank’ or confused mind – don’t you just love it when your mind goes blank?  I do!

It means I’ve reached the current edge of my thinking. I’m expanding the sphere that is my mind and pushing against its boundaries. I’ve reached what is known as a Boundary Condition.

Our ‘spheres’ are super flexible and love to be stretched. When we reach the outer edge of our thinking and lean on the wall of our sphere, it gives way a little and this is the moment when you push.

Dig deep in order to expand beyond what’s familiar and comfortable. Make the zone of familiarity larger, make your experiences greater and make your life fuller.


Yes, this can be an uncomfortable moment (or few) and that’s because we were made to feel this way!

Many eons ago, as caveman, this sense of fear to move beyond what we know, was necessary. It was a protection mechanism.

When caveman came face to face with uncertainty, that caution and overwhelming sense of fear ensured survival.

Well, that was all well and good when life was based on survival, but it’s certainly not needed today – what with opportunity knocking, endless options and a world of uncertainty where important decisions must be made on a daily basis.


The great news is, once we’ve pushed and stretched our mind, we’ve expanded our comfort zone and THAT now becomes what is familiar to us. We practice this new technique, own it, grow and then reach another “blank” where we once again dig deep and expand.

Really, the possibilities are endless.


It’s only beyond what we do know that we’re able to find what we don’t know.

And what we don’t know, we don’t know…. Huh??!! 😉


So, how do you learn to know what you don’t know?

  1. Accept it as a beautiful thing..

Look in to yourself and know that this is your moment to shine. Take a breath and appreciate that you are capable of bigger and greater, that you’re about to open up a world of new possibilities


  1. Allow yourself space..

Behaviours are born when you reach a boundary condition so give yourself time to question what you will do next.  This will allow creativity to flow more readily and calmness will bring more clarity. You will start to think differently and without realising it, you move outside your comfort zone


  1. Ask yourself these questions..

What if I did know?

What would I do now if I did know?

What are the possibilities here?

What’s the gift in this for me?

Finding appreciation in the situation eliminates fear – these two experiences (appreciation and fear) actually use the same neurons in the brain so they simply can’t exist in the same space! What a great piece of knowledge to draw from.


  1. Be self-aware..

Focus less on the problem and more on the solution. Respect the fact that we are probably going to have to make compromises along the way – all is not going to go perfectly fine. Think about the outcome and what needs to be accomplished. What are the minimum goals that you need to aim for? What conditions do you need to satisfy?

Think clearly about the boundary condition and the fact that you’ve reached one.


  1. Make a decision, take action..

You may not even know exactly where you’re going with your decision. Don’t put pressure on yourself just move forward, step by step, little by little, acknowledge yourself along the way, trying new resourceful ways of thinking and remove your limitations.  Albert Einstein said, “We are boxed in by the Boundary Conditions of our thinking”.  Don’t be!


When you allow yourself to grow, you use and share your new knowledge.

This creates an internal energy like a bolt of lightning that carves a path to your new possibilities and opens up space for the real magic to happen.

And as a powerful overflow, it carries in to all areas of life.


If you’ve loved reading this and are keen to discover where (or where else) you specifically need to stretch yourself for maximum benefit, email me on and mention this article. You’ll receive an email containing a comprehensive Gap Analysis Questionnaire that will open areas to focus on for growth and strategy implementation.


Have a great day!!

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